My Best Friend’s wedding!!

Ya that’s true, my best friend is getting married. It is a huge deal for me, we spent 3 whole years of college life, fighting, making up and having a good time. And its true that great friends n great friendship is not found/ formed over night. It takes years of trial and bumps to know about the value of true friendship.

To talk about our friendship, “S” is complete opposite of me, a very silent, timid girl, but extremely creative and a great sense of commitment and also a perfectionist. I must also add that she is a great cook and makes yummy chocolate cakes that just melt in your mouth. I admire all those things about her. There have been times when we have had differences, a lot of times in fact, but I’m glad we have come through and that we are still good friends.

“S” and I used to have long conversation when we were in college on how the world would be different after we graduate, that we would never have this security of the four walls of the class room. Everything would change after we graduate, our life would be transformed, slowly but soon. This was and is the fact of life, “change” would be the only thing that remains constant.

After graduation we started working, both in different companies, we still made time in between the busy work schedules, to just call and tell each other about the work, bitch about the bosses and also the how it was difficult to get the juniors to work and so on.

During all these times, we never actually spoke or even thought about ‘Marriage’. We were still of the opinion that that would happen later, a lot later. But like every girl of the ‘marriageable age’, there would be continues visits of the prospective grooms in front of whom the eligible girl would have to parade. All this formalities would be done. But I didn’t expect things to happen so fast that one day, she would come n tell me that she’s getting married. I was taken by suprise, didn’t actually know what I felt- I was excited about her new life, a different phase of life- married life a whole new experience. And I was also confused about what would be next- if we could still be friends, the same way that we are now? Would it still be possible for her to come to the flee market, shop till we were tired, eat the pani poori, or chats carefree??.. I kinda started missing her already, as a great friend that she has always been.

And now there has come a stage that she will be married very soon. “S” would have a new set of commitments and challenges and excitement. But I am extremely excited and very happy for her new life. I wish her all the very best for a brand new beginning and a great life ahead. I know things wouldn’t be the same with us now, but that’s life, we need to move on. And on our friendship, I would still be only a phone call away for her any day-always. And I just want to thank “S” for being a great friend to me.

Happy married life girl!!!.. Rock on!!!

Battle of the Sexes- in the corporate world

Let me start of by talking about the battle that would generally exist between the same sexes, [more profound in the female gender]. There is the famous cat fight, which is nothing but the outcome of an argument getting sour. But why on earth do women fight among themselves? I dono, n I’m not the person who should be dealing with the sensitive question, let them fight and settle it among themselves, I really don’t care.

All I care is about the office politics that get sour. Like for example, lets say there’s a person by name “JL” who is a guy working in the same dept as “K”. Now the scene is like this- “JL” had been working in a different office till 3 months back. And “K” was working under a senior head whose work was extremely organized and there seamed a reason for “K’ to grow as a professional under the senior manager. Few months into joining the firm, “K” had gained the goodwill of the senior manager and the dept with hard work and quality deliverables.

Later the senior manager leaves the company for another better opportunity; “K” is single handedly supposed to lead the dept. There is no one to assist her in her work, and initially she is apprehensive about the huge responsibility. In any case, the management decides to bring in “JL” in place of the senior manger so that “K” doesn’t feel the pressure.

Initially there were only friendly exchanges of information that “K” and “JL” had. Now that “JL” will have to take responsibility of the office and the dept in which “K” has already been, “JL” gets a all new high and bosses around “K” to get the work done. Now “K” being the nice person not interested in offending anybody takes in all the bossiness and the crap the “JL” keeps throwing.

Soon the stage comes where even though the work is actually executed at the end of “K”, “JL” starts taking the credit of the work very subtly and also makes sure that -when there might a possible screw up “K” is actively involved (even though “K” had no prior information about any screw ups) and if possible even push the blame on “K” so as to save his ass.

Now “K” though has slowly started to realize the game plan of “JL”, she gets highly frustrated and decides to change the job. But now the question arises- why is “K” leaving the job, when the dept in which she works had recognized her work and also that other associates with whom she regularly deals have no problem with the work she does. “K” plans to change the job, coz she doesn’t know what to do abt “JL” and how she can handle that moron.

Now the only reason that seams obvious to “K” about the dealings and the politics played by “JL” is that “JL” doesn’t want “K” to be actively involved in the work and that her work will not be recognized by the senior management.

All I ask the readers is that- do you have any ways in which “K” can actually try to get “JL” to stop playing the office politics on her and to let her get going with the work?? And any other experience that can be shared which would help poor “K” to deal with the office politics.